Womanhood, Thirties and Why ageing is a Positive thing

This is not a post about suddenly waking up when your thirty and having everything in place, a wonderful home, successful career, model kids and the perfect relationship because at no age is that realistic or guaranteed. You don't just suddenly work everything out overnight, with each year you are still the same person but life experience does make you grow and give you insights you simple didn't have when you were younger.

As I got closer to the big 3 0 I actually didn't feel like I was letting go of anything, instead I was saying hello to a newer more reassured me. Yes it's true I don't have that dewy wrinkle-free skin you have when you turn twenty, my eyes are tired, areas of my body are not as firm as they use to be due to it gifting me with two amazing children but this body is mine and for the first time I am starting to own that.

Having turned 33 a month ago I honestly feel in many respects now is the best time of my life, its by no means perfect, there are many dimensions of it that are chaotic and all over the place but me as a individual I feel good. I think with age you realise something, you don't need reassurance or acceptance from others to feel good, in fact the only person you need it from is yourself and during my late teens and early twenties this certainly did not come naturally.

I often feel in media today men are perceived to age well, we are constantly told how good looking people like Brad Pitt and George Clooney are but the same is not really said for women of the same age and why not? I honestly feel we come into our prime later in life and I loved what Lady Gaga said in her recent documentary that before she was thirty she was a girl but once she turned thirty she was a woman, I really resonate with that. Something inside me switched, I realised time is very precious and it shouldn't be wasted on what other people think, age has certainly instilled a real sense of worth that wasn't there before. That's not to say I don't still get down or upset is someone says something hurtful but I bounce back quicker these days.

I feel the media also has some part to blame in us fearing turning thirty as if that is some kind of expiry date on our best physical years but I think many of us will agree in terms of personal style we look far better now than when we did when we were eighteen and making questionable fashion choices.

With age I feel we actually become feistier, we become more supportive of each other, we realise that equality is more important than ever and inequality cannot be tolerated, we strip away the naivety that we held with our teens and twenties, we learn from our mistakes and we multitask in ways we never expected before. Life I have realised is never going to be perfect but I certainly deal with stress a little better now and I have no qualms or issues about ageing, I truly believe we come into our own more than ever with each year that goes by. So don't fear the coming years, embrace them because ladies we only get better.